and Achieving goals.
Recently I had dinner
with an old friend who had decided to relocate and get a fresh start
in life. He explained he was going through some changes and was at that
point in life where he was comfortable but not enthusiastic anymore.
As we continued talking I asked him what his next goals were in life?
And what he wanted to do next? "Why, I haven't got any." He
said in a dumbfounded way. "I didn't think I needed to set goals.
I thought I could just go on like I always have."
My friend's response
seems to be typical of a number of people. I say this because I've often
heard similar responses in the years that I've been teaching my Creating
Power System. Unfortunately, my friend and those like him are missing
the point because we really do need to set goals - otherwise we end
up getting frustrated or lose all enthusiasm for life. I'll explain
Going through life
without any goals is like getting into a car and driving without any
destination in mind. Would you get into your car and just start driving
hoping to get somewhere but really not sure where you are going or how
you're going to get there? How often have you got into your car and
said: "Let's just drive and see where we end up?" Chances
are you're like most people - you get into your car when you need to
go somewhere. Most often you know exactly where you're going and have
a pretty good idea of how you're going to get there. You know how you're
going to get there because you may be familiar with the route, or you
got directions from someone.
So why not use the
same skills in life?
Life in many ways
is like driving - you need to have a destination in mind. You can't
get somewhere if you don't know where you're going because you'll only
end up getting nowhere and then wonder how you got there in the first
place. Think about that for a moment. I've seen and spoken to thousands
of people who have lived their life without setting any goals only to
realize that where they are is not where they want to be and they have
no idea how they got there to begin with. The frustration continues
because they fail to decide where they want to go next and then never
regain the enthusiasm they had for life when they were a child.
Think about it -
when you were a kid you wanted to be a pilot, a doctor, a lawyer, a
movie star, a rock star, -- you had this childish enthusiasm because
you had a goal and you thought anything was possible. Today you may
have lost that childish enthusiasm because you no longer think anything
is possible. The only reason that happened is because you didn't set
goals and achieve them. Maybe you did - and maybe they were too lofty
or something stopped you - but as soon as you gave up on them - you
lost that enthusiasm. I'm not saying go out and try to be that rock
star at 45 - but you can set new goals and this time do what you can
to achieve them - because you only get one chance - and this is it.
If you're one of
those people who is a little like my friend and you're not that enthusiastic
about life - don't feel dismayed - there are a number of things you
can do to get going again. First let's talk about setting goals.
Often when I ask
people what they're goals are I usually get the following response:
"I don't have any goals, I don't know what I want to do."
My answer is really simple: "You do know what you want to do -
you just haven't thought about it yet." Think about it. How often
do you really think about what you want to do or what you want to do
So the first step
is to start thinking about what you want to do or what you want to do
next. Now often the response to that is: "But I don't know what
I want to do next." Okay - that's fine. Yes it is fine. If you
don't know exactly what you want to do or what you want to do next -
then start thinking about the kind of life you want to have. Try to
look forward 5 years - where do you see yourself? What's life like for
you 5 years from now? What kind of life would you want 5 years from
now? Write it down. Next start thinking about what you need to do in
order to get to where you want to be in 5 years. You just saw what kind
of life you wanted in 5 years - now what can you do to get there? If
you're saying: "I don't know what to do to get there." My
answer to that is: "You do know how to get there - you just haven't
thought of it yet." My point is that once you start thinking about
these kinds of things you'll begin to get answers and find solutions.
You'll begin to establish a long-term goal - the life you want in 5
years and you'll also set a series of short term goals - the things
you need to do to get you there. Once you do that - you then have a
destination in mind and an idea of how you're going to get there. The
idea is to get your mind working for you rather than against you.
of Setting Goals
The reason it's
important to set goals is because without them you feel like you're
just spinning your wheels in life. Without goals you no longer feel
challenged, you no longer feel like you're striving for something, you
no longer feel alive. Without goals life becomes boring and you lose
interest - in the end you could end up being bored and depressed. When
you have a goal or a series of goals you suddenly feel like you have
a sense of purpose - you feel like you're using your full potential
and that you're striving for something better.
I'm not saying that
everyone has to have lofty goals. All I'm saying is that in order to
feel like you're getting the most out of life you need to have some
goals and some direction - because without that - life becomes meaningless.
Now it's also important
to achieve your goals. If you constantly fail when trying to achieve
your goals you'll lose your self-esteem, confidence and in the end won't
be interested in doing much of anything. So the way to achieve goals
is to set smaller realistic goals in the beginning. Start with the little
things - things you know you can achieve and then start to set the standards
a little higher as you go. If you're unemployed and you want to be a
millionaire - your first goal should be to start working and saving
some money. Then consider your next goal and so on.
The other important
factor needed to achieve goals is a belief that you can and will accomplish
your goals. This means you have to change your old way of thinking.
This is actually crucial to your success - because if you don't believe
you can achieve your goals - it doesn't matter how hard you try - you
just won't get there. In order to create this new belief that you can
and will achieve your goals - you have to train your mind and send new
messages to your subconscious mind. This is where Creating Power really
helps you. So start by telling yourself that you can achieve your goals,
look for ways to achieve your goals and then start taking the steps
to achieve your goals. When you hear yourself saying "I can't"
or "I don't think I can
" or "I don't know - it
all seems so difficult
" stop and put those statements into
positive phrases - so that you focus on what you want to achieve.
Let's recap - first
set goals. Think about what you want to achieve. Then set smaller goals
- and start achieving them so that you build your confidence and self-esteem.
At the same time - change your beliefs and re-train your mind.